When should you announce your pregnancy, and do you really have to wait until the second trimester to share the good news?
You’re bursting with the news that you’re expecting — but you may be wondering when you should tell loved ones. There’s no more exciting news to share, so it can be hard to keep it a secret, especially from your family and friends. Here are a few things to consider as you’re making your decision.
When is the best time to announce your pregnancy?
The short answer is that there's no "right" time to share this happy news. While some expecting parents start broadcasting the baby bulletin even before the urine on the pregnancy test stick has dried, others prefer to wait to announce their pregnancy until the second trimester. Ultimately, the decision is a personal one that only you and your partner can make.
What to consider when deciding when to announce your pregnancy
Trying to decide when to share the good news? No matter what, you’ll need to share it with your partner first (if you haven’t already). Get their take on the matter and together, come up with a plan. Here are a few factors you might want to take into consideration.
The risk of miscarriage goes way down once you reach your second trimester
Most miscarriages occur in the first trimester, which is why some couples prefer to wait until after week 13 to make the announcement (many feel that it would be hard to handle the disappointment under a spotlight). But other parents-to-be feel that if they were faced with a pregnancy loss, they’d want the support of close family and friends. Again, it's ultimately your decision and what feels right for one couple may be different for another.
You may want some time to savor the excitement
As tempting as it is to alert your family, friends and everyone who follows you on social media, waiting a few weeks or months may allow you and your partner time to savor the excitement alone. Once word gets around, people (even people you don’t know very well) will often be more than happy to share unsolicited advice, comments about your weight, tummy pats and nightmare labor stories.
On the other hand, if you’re very close with your family and friends — and especially if you’re not good at keeping secrets — it may be hard not to blurt the news out the first time you call your mom, sister or best friend. Besides, you can always swear them to secrecy. Just be sure to say, in no uncertain terms, that this info is classified until you give the green light.
You’ll get more confirmation of your pregnancy after your first prenatal appointment
If you’re nervous about revealing the news, you might be feel more comfortable sharing your pregnancy status after you visit your practitioner. At your first prenatal appointment, you’ll take a urine test and receive bloodwork to check your pregnancy hormone levels, even if you already got a positive pregnancy result from at-home test.
You may also get a prenatal ultrasound at this time (some practitioners perform it between weeks 6 and 9, though others hold off until the second trimester), which will help confirm your due date. For some women, a pregnancy confirmation from a doctor — and that first ultrasound image — can make things seem that much more real.
You may need an accommodation at work
You might decide to tell your employer earlier in your pregnancy depending on your job. For example, you may need to request a workplace accommodation — such as if you won't be able to lift certain weights or be exposed to certain chemicals — or simply explain to your boss why you’ve been running to the restroom every few minutes. Sometimes, pregnancy symptoms can make the announcement for you — even if that’s sooner than you hoped.