Your Life as a Parent: Sibling Dynamics

If you have older children, you may notice a slight change in the dynamic now that your littlest one is a toddler. As we’ve described, your toddler is the center of her own universe, and this can make her behave in ways that your older children may find annoying.

For example, your 14-month-old might infringe on her siblings' privacy, take their things as her own, and throw a tantrum if they take their things back.

On the other hand, your older children may be jealous that your 14-month-old gets more of your attention.

Depending on the age of your older child, you may find she is doing things, like misbehaving, just to get your attention.

The sibling rivalry should diminish in the years to come as your children need less of your focused attention.

In the meantime, make an effort to spend some quality time with each of your children. Perhaps have your partner, family member, or babysitter mind one while you enjoy some one-on-one time or a fun outing with the other, and vice versa.