Toddlers have a reputation for being little terrors, especially when temper tantrums and other types of aggressive behavior begin to appear. Here are a few ideas for you to help keep the upcoming “terrible twos” at bay and curb any aggressive tendencies:

Understand that toddlers cannot control themselves. At this age, toddlers don't have much self-control, and you need to help them learn not to push, hit, bite, or kick when they're angry. Instead, try to encourage them to "use their words" to express their feelings.

Set the house rules. Create some simple house rules and teach them to your little one. If she breaks the rules, be firm and clear about what she did wrong. Keep in mind that teaching the rules and having them obeyed is something that takes time.

Avoid using threats. It’s more effective to “catch” your little one being good and reinforce good behavior with praise. If you notice bad behavior, try to teach an alternative way to behave instead of issuing threats.

  Use distractions. Preventing poor choices or bad behavior at this age often comes down to you presenting better alternatives instead. For example, if you see your toddler reaching for something breakable like a ceramic salt and pepper shaker, give her an alternative like a spoon to bang instead.

Control your own temper. It’s easy to lose your cool and run out of patience, but it’s important to watch your own behavior around your child. You’re a role model for your little one. If you can express your anger or frustration in a cool, calm way, your toddler will learn to do the same.